Why Moms Should Keep Their Promises

straws“The godly walk with integrity; blessed are their children who follow them,” (Proverbs 20:7, NLT).

I spent fifteen dollars on a snow cone. Crazy, right?

Of course this wasn’t just any snow cone. This was a super-sized, rainbow flavored, tantalizing treat scooped into a commemorative Tinkerbell mug. Yes, my husband and I took our girls to the Disney on Ice show, and one glance around the arena told us we weren’t the only parents forking over ridiculous cash for souvenirs.

Why? What kind of mother buys a fifteen-dollar snow cone?

A good one, I think.

Not because good mothers pay a fortune for shaved ice balls. Seriously, what was in that thing to make it worth fifteen bucks? Pixie dust?

Good mothers do, however, keep their promises. You see, before we settled into our seats, I promised my daughter a snow cone. How was I supposed to know they’d charge me a healthy kidney for it? There were no signs, no announcements to warn us—get your overpriced snow cones here! By the time the concession peddler approached our row and I flagged him down, it was already too late. I promised. Therefore, I paid.

Woman figure skatingIn today’s world, it seems promises are easily diluted. Commitments are optional. Covenants are casually broken. Yet God calls his people to live a life of integrity. One of the simplest ways we can do that is by keeping our word. God keeps his promises to us. So I will keep my promises to my children—even when it’s hard.

Even when it hurts.

Even when it costs more than I bargained for.

A souvenir mug may not guarantee my daughters will remember our special family outing ten years from now. But they will remember this—their mother is a habitual promise-keeper. That, to me, is priceless.

Good moms keep their promises.

Good moms probably also have rules against things like straw-slurping the bottom of a Tinkerbell mug in public. If that’s the case, then I have my faults. My girls lapped up every last drop of that snow cone. I made sure of it.

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How to get kids to help with Spring Cleaning

There was a day when I imagined that when our children could drive, apply for college, and deposit a pay check, they would help with Spring Cleaning without even being asked. I was deluded. There will never come a time when the woman of the house doesn’t have to get her hands dirty in guiding her family in the care and cooperation of her home.

Setting the TableIf you want to get your kids to help with Spring Cleaning, you have to throw out your rotten habits and bring in some fresh ones. Kids of every age need moms to encourage, equip, and empower them to be involved in caring for the home they share with their family. By successfully engaging children in the work of the household, we prepare them to be responsible (and clean?) when they have a home of their own.

Throw out your rotten habits

  • Nagging ~ Because it never works. Repeated negative messages suggest frustration, lack of confidence, and opposition. If you want kids to help with Spring Cleaning, “Bag the nag” and get started!
  • Long Lists ~ Because they set kids up for failure. Instead of putting long, insurmountable goals in writing, craft short, attainable, age appropriate tasks your child can achieve. Teach them how good it feels to complete work.
  • Isolation ~ Because we’re on the same team. Isolation can feel like punishment. Children of all ages need mentoring to turn their work into learning opportunities. Kids benefit from our company as we work side by side and let relationships grow while tasks are done.
  • Criticism ~ Because it crushes the spirit. When children do their age-appropriate best (or husbands, for that matter) we either reinforce our joy at their diligence or teach them they can not do enough to satisfy us. Dishwasher filled inefficiently? Clothes folded imperfectly? Resist the urge to “re-do” their work. Guide when necessary, but appreciate always.

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Bring fresh in to the house

  • Tools ~ Because it’s fun! Appropriately sized equipment for your child communicates that you desire their participation, plan for their regular involvement, and value their contribution. Get the right tools to make work easier to do, and set them up for success.
  • Rewards ~ Because something motivates everyone. You don’t need to pay children to help maintain their own home, but give “rewards” they long for:  appreciation, hugs, praise, rest. Help them learn the valuable lesson that hard work brings blessing.
  • Information ~ Because kids ask “Why?” Your kids are smart!  Give them reasons behind the work we do. Why DO windows need to be cleaned? Why DO we change our sheets? Show them a picture of a peaceful room and talk about why it would feel good to be there. There are answers for “Why?” questions.
  • Learning ~ Because knowing leads to growing. Starting at home, children learn to feel competent and confident about their world and their part in it.  As they understand the care of a home, they’ll feel more self-assured about establishing one of their own. Or you could do their laundry forever …

One day our kids will grow up and have homes of their own. Like us, they will have the potential to let household things overtake them:  laundry, dust, clutter, and mess. This spring, let’s clean out our rotten habits and bring in a fresh supply of good practices so we teach our kids the joy of keeping a house as a home.

By Julie Sanders at Come Have a Peace

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Heightened Awareness: Living Life in the Midst of the Unknown

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Most of my life is lived in a constant state of heightened awareness. At any given moment I am painfully aware that I could have to drop everything and be in the middle of a medical crisis. Truth be told, that is pretty much true for any of us, especially moms.

Our kids are in a state of constant movement and yes, at any given time, they could get hurt. For me, it is the same, except that I have also experienced this medical crisis too many times.

In 2005 my oldest son woke up that morning for school and he just didn’t seem “right?”. I thought he might have been having a stomach ache, or maybe it could have been from the fall he had the night before from running in the house with his socks on, either way I was not prepared for how dramatically life would change in that one instant.

He went from just not “right” to full blown grand mal seizures and continued seizing for forty five minutes. He was eleven years old at the time and in the middle of that my then nine year old walked in and witnessed every single minute of it. The ambulance came and next thing I knew my boy was on a helicopter headed to the children’s hospital…without me.

We had no idea what was going on or that from that moment on our lives would be in a constant state of heightened awareness. He spent fifty one days in the PICU of the children’s hospital and after several procedures, infections, complications, and more he walked out of the hospital with a new side effect of the trauma his body went through, he would be forever insulin dependent and was now diabetic. We had the best doctors, training and more and had walked the road of juvenile diabetes for almost four years when he started having seizures again.

Just when things started to fall into a new normal the walls of our lives were rattled and here we were in a new state of heightened awareness.

Never knowing what was going on in his world, every phone call, text, or communication with our son started with “are you ok?” and then we could process whatever he was talking about and move on.

Years of doctors appointments, tests, blood work, referrals and more added to the stress, anxiety and worry. Living in this constant state of awareness and always being ready to jump into action is exhausting–not just mentally, but physically and emotionally as well.

We are eight years on this journey now and we have learned a lot of lessons through this, but something keeps banging up against my heart whenever I start to feel the anxiousness of the heightened awareness and that is this — what if we were to “shift” (my one word for 2013) our thoughts and awareness from the issue and put it squarely where it belongs…on God.

Moving the focus from the stuff going on in our lives (and let’s face it, we all have stuff) and resting it on the only One that can do anything about it. To have His peace, comfort and rest would be a blessed reprieve for most of us right now.

Hang with me here, if we lived in a state of heightened awareness of God, then imagine with me how you might feel emotionally? physically? emotionally?

For I am always aware of your unfailing love,

   and I have lived according to your truth.

Psalm 26:3 NLT

Sweet friends, I know it isn’t always easy to make that shift, believe me, it is still something that I wrestle with almost daily, but this I know — He is in control (Hebrews 2:8). He has a perfect plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11), for your family and He wants nothing more than to shower you with His love (Romans 5:5).

What does living in a state of heightened awareness of God look like?

It can be anything as simple as;

  1. starting your day with a “Good Morning God”,

  2. to stopping in the middle of a busy day to say “thank you” for the sunshine, the children in your life, or for any of the blessings you’ve been given that day.

  3. or even listening to worship music and being fully present in that moment to enjoy it.

I don’t know what it looks like for you, but I do know this, the peace from shifting my heightened awareness from the health issues to God and who He is, has brought me so much more comfort in living life in the midst of the unknown.

Yes, like any mama bear that has a child (well, he’s an adult now, but he’s still my boy) with health issues I am painfully aware that things can change in an instant, but I have peace that no matter what happens my God will carry me through and that is more than enough for me right this very moment.

What about you?

When living in the state of heightened awareness which are you looking for that peace and comfort in the most — physically, mentally or emotionally?

How would living in your day to day world change if you made that shift and were in a state of heightened awareness to the presence of God?

I look forward to hearing from you…

Seeking JOY on the Journey,

Melissa Mashburn

www.MelissaMashburn.net

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Mean Girls Come From Mean Mamas

Standing in line for the concert gave my family plenty of people-watching time. As girls and guys made their way to the back of the line, I pointed out all the immodest clothing. “Why would she wear those in public?” “Oh my! I can’t believe she feels comfortable dressed like that!” I commented as one-by-one they passed us.

I must have shared quite a few of these statements because my oldest teenaged daughter finally said, “Mom, you are being mean!”

I felt so small. I hadn’t thought I was being mean. I was simply pointing out to my girls how not to dress. But my daughter was right.

The truth is, my girls already know how not to dress; I have been teaching them since they were five. And now I was teaching them how to judge another woman. I was teaching them to be mean.

Since that night at the concert I’ve come to the conclusion that mean girls often come from mean mamas. When we point out other’s flaws, we are modeling for our kids a judgmental heart. Instead, what we mamas need to demonstrate is compassion.

Our key verse today says we are to rid ourselves of slander, which means a scandalous remark. In fact, in the verses before and the verses that follow, it doesn’t mention of any time when it is okay to slander others.

One way we are overcoming a mean spirit in our family is through accountability. When my girls are gossiping or putting another girl down, I gently point it out and my girls do the same for me.

At first, having my child call me out was a bit uncomfortable. But making this a family issue, rather than just me correcting my kids, is bringing us to a deeper level of kindness.

Like me, you may be surprised to discover just how often you say unkind things . If you watch each other’s words, both you and your child will become more compassionate, less judgmental and a whole lot more careful about the words you say! It’s working for me; I know it will work for you too!

Dear Lord, I want to rid myself of slander and in turn teach my children to do the same. Please cleanse my heart of judgment and help me to set a guard over my mouth. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Looking for a way you can connect to your girl and learn about friendships together?His Revolutionary Love: Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You by Lynn Cowell is for girls ages 13-18. It is a great study for moms and daughters to bond over! There is a free leadership guide for it on her website!

Visit Lynn’s website for a free family purity guide. Together you can honor God with your hearts, words and bodies!


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Raising kids with the urge to lead

John C. Maxwell said that “Everything rises and falls with leadership,” so if our children are to have a strong future, we must raise strong leaders. In less than a week, the United States Supreme Court will hear the Perry Case to determine if the 2008 proposition voted in by the people of California to protect marriage is constitutional or not. We will all feel the ripple effects. Our children will live and raise their families in the wake of the decision.

Moms are raising kids in an atmosphere antagonistic to the family, and the same is true in much of the world. How can a mom raise her child with the urge to lead?

Leadership begins at home, takes root in the church, and bears fruit in the world. Moms today follow in the footsteps of mothers who release their once-babes to become leaders in their day.

Jochebed had precious little time to retrieve Moses and train him in a home that feared the true God, before she had to release him to the house of the Pharaoh.  Even in the great family of Egypt, God was with him and steered his path to leadership.

Hannah and SamuelHannah’s time with Samuel was treasured before she willingly opened her hands to offer her only son back to the Lord. Still, she mothered him at chosen times and from a distance, adding to the firm foundation that would be his platform for leadership.

Elderly Elizabeth raised up her only son John to be a man of the wild, a grown son whose one purpose was to lead people to the Messiah.  Ultimately, her son’s life would be an earthly sacrifice with a heavenly reward.

Mary knew from the beginning that her Son Jesus was not her own, but the very child of God. She nursed and nurtured him, raising him for purposes she could not conceive. God used a humble woman to raise the God-child who would lead captives free from death and into an eternity of restoration.

 

If mothers today are to raise children to be leaders, we must face the urge to lead.

Mothering with the urge to lead

  • Resist the urge to rescue.  Children learn to depend on God, understand their design, and manage conflict when mothers choose to let children encounter hardship.
  • Feed the urge to pray. Every mother knows she will raise her child to leave her, but God will never leave them. The best gift we can give our children is a habit-heritage of calling on their Heavenly Father.
  • Overcome the urge to interfere. Children will not lead if mothers solve all of their problems. If we step in to fix trouble and buffer our kids from life’s challenges, we keep them from developing a response to the need to lead.
  • Nurture the urge to encourage. Mothers have atomic power to lift children to higher hopes and courageous confidence. The world will stifle the moral ambitions and godly initiatives of future leaders, so moms need to strengthen their hearts as they grow.
  • Cultivate the urge to model. Children learn more from how we live than how we lecture. When children see parents impacting their world as servant-leaders in the home, and in the community, they will see their own potential to impact their world.

Everything does rise and fall on leadership, so let’s raise kids with the urge to lead.

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5 Lessons Learned in the Emergency Room

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Last week was the 3rd time we had to take our baby to the ER since January 1st.  Never have we been to the ER so many times with one child. Poor little Charlie,  he has had a very sick winter with RSV, stomach bug, respiratory infection and whatever else a baby can catch this time of year.

Last week, he dislocated his elbow.  HOW?  I have no clue, but he did. Actually I did it, but don’t know how.   So, needless to say I am learning some new things thanks to all of these trips to the ER.

  1. Always take a shower before bed, never think you can take it the next morning.  Every time I decided to shower the next morning we ended up taking a sick baby to the ER before I could shower.  Thank goodness for pony tail holders, baseball caps & perfume.
  2. Keep snacks & a water bottle in the diaper bag.  2 of the 3 times we went to the ER during a meal time.  Thank goodness I had some trail mix stuck away in the bag because Scott & I were hungry & there were no vending machines in sight.  Plus who wants to pay $3.00 for a tiny bag of pretzels?
  3. Keep a journal at home.  On our first ER trip Charlie had RSV. When my baby was gasping for air and the nurse was asking me when I last took his temperature, how high his fever was and when he last had Ibuprophen I couldn’t remember a thing. If I had written it down and brought it with me it would have made things much easier.   I write stuff down now just in case I have to tell it to the Pediatrician or ER doctor.  Plus it really makes me look like I’m on top of things.
  4. Be patient.   It is so easy to want to demand quick treatment when your baby has been sick.  You are tired from staying up all night and all you want is for your child to be ok.  ER trip #2 we sat in a waiting room for 3 hours on Martin Luther King Jr birthday with hundreds of other sick people, tempers were flaring.  It was a long wait, especially when you have a sick child.  The staff was working as fast and as efficiently as they could.  We knew that & waited, even though I really wanted to stomp my feet & yell, “Hey do you even care my baby is sick?”.  When we were finally taken to a room, we waited some more.  It was getting old, but getting upset about it would not help our sick baby any at all.
  5. Be prepared to shine for Jesus.  Even when you are the patient (or your child is) we can shine for Jesus by the way we respond to others or speak to them.  Every time we have been in the ER the Lord gave us opportunities to talk about Him with others.  Scripture says to always be prepared.

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“But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. “ 1 Peter 3:15

When Christ rules your heart and mind others notice even if they don’t really know what they are noticing.

Do others see something different in you?  Do they see a hope and joy they rarely see?

Our family has been through a lot in the past 2 years and is still going through it.  I will never forget when someone asked my oldest daughter how she could be so upbeat and joyful when our family was experiencing such a difficult time.  Without missing a beat she responded with, “It has to be the Lord carrying me through this because this is the hardest thing we have even been through and yet I know he has our backs.”  I love that!  My 20 yr old daughter, in the midst of difficult days, was living out the joy of the Lord & her hope was grounded in Him and others noticed.

Are you prepared? 

Do others notice a hope in you they don’t have?

Do you know someone who has that hope that you want?

Sweet Mom, Jesus is the author of the faith that makes that hope & joy possible.  I pray you know him as personal friend and Savior and learn to choose His hope and joy.  It is there for the taking.

I write a new blog focusing on living in His joy and how that can happen.  I invite you to visit and subscribe to my posts.  www.joymoms.com

In His Joy!

Dana Bailey


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Mean Girls

574977_482259785168461_1678738962_nThe words on Facebook glared back at her. “You are so ugly! You are fat, annoying and I hate you!”

Lindsay just sat there, staring at the screen, baffled. “What did I say? What did I do?”

Maybe this has happened to one of your children, or in some way they’ve faced this same type of painful rejection. Maybe you have felt it yourself. I recently spotted a t-shirt at the mall that read “You’re no one until someone talks about you.” What a sad state of affairs.

Growing up in a world where “Mean Girls” and “Gossip Girl” are movie and TV titles, it comes as no surprise that “mean” defines many females today. How can we guard our hearts against this? As a mom, what can we do when our children’s hearts are crushed by meanness?

Feeling unaccepted is nothing new. In Song of Solomon 1:5a, we are introduced to a young girl who felt this way: “Don’t look down on me because I am dark…” (MSG). She felt rejected. Those feelings are so opposite of what we and our children want to feel. We long to be accepted.

Matthew Henry concludes about this passage in Song of Solomon that we, as represented by the young girl, are “often base and contemptible in the esteem of others, but excellent in the sight of God.” [1]

We can counteract the poison of meanness by remembering who we are in God’s eyes. I am excellent in the sight of God and so are you. Song of Solomon 1:5b reveals the tanned girl’s acceptance of this truth; she knows full well that her Lord finds her lovely. When I know that I am accepted by the Lord, it puts me exactly where I need to be to slough off insults and to help my child do the same.

When my daughter was in sixth grade, she was 5’10″. One day as she got off the school bus, I noticed she was holding back a flood of tears. Once again she had been made fun of for her height.

On that day, her youth pastor wasn’t there. Her teacher, counselor and small group leaders weren’t there either. But her mom was. I began telling her how her Father saw her. Sharing truths like these:

“My beloved is mine, and I am His…” (Song of Solomon 2:16a, NKJV).

“You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear love, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless” (Song of Solomon 4:7b, MSG).

“The king is enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord” (Psalm 45:11, NIV).

I poured these truths and others into my daughter that day and continue to remind her of them still. I put them everywhere so that together we can read them over and over again. When we feel rejected, these words remind us that we are, in fact, accepted! I pray they will be a sweet reminder for you, and perhaps your daughter, today.

Dear Lord, help me to be purposeful in putting Your truth about who I am into my heart and mind so that am not swayed by the opinions of others. And when the time is right, I can pour Your truth into the hearts and minds of my children and friends. When my child feels rejected, help me remind them that in You they are accepted. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Do you have a young woman in your life that you want to know this truth? His Revolutionary Love by Lynn Cowell empowers young women to discover God’s love in a way that builds confidence, enabling them to make wise choices.



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LOOKS SAFE

Six legs dashed across the rust-colored lawn as cheerful voices rang through the fall air. Each boy paused briefly before hiking himself over the wooden fence that encircled the drowsy farm animals. Plopping down on the other side, each youngster shot out with open arms towards a different animal standing wide-eyed in shock nearby.

This was it! Time to enjoy all the farm life had to offer. Out of the rush of the city, surrounded by all these peaceful animals!  It was time for fun!

Little did they know what real danger they jumped into. 

 STRIKES WHEN YOU’RE UNAWARE

There was a four-year-old boy, however, still standing on the safe, opposite side of the fence.  Fear was painted across his face for the other boys because he did know the danger.  He lived here and had personally felt the stinging pain these other boys were ignorant of.  One unforeseen, painful blow by the stealthy strike of the innocent looking rooster is not easily forgotten.

SUBTLE BUT DEADLY STRATEGY 

Proverbs 22:3 tells us, “The prudent see danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.”  What danger is Satan drawing our families into while we relax, unaware?  Here are twelve subtle tactics used by the enemy to acquire victory in our family’s lives; he wants to:

  • Keep us busy with non-essentials.
  • Tempt us to overspend and go into debt.
  • Make us work long hours to maintain empty lifestyles.
  • Discourage us from spending family time, for when homes disintegrate there’s no refuge from work.
  • Over stimulate our minds with TV and computers so that we can’t hear God speaking to us.
  • Fill our coffee tables and nightstands with newspapers and magazines (Face-book)  so we have no time for Bible reading.
  • Flood our mailboxes with sweepstakes, promotions and get-rich-schemes; keep us chasing material things.
  • Put glamorous models on TV, magazine covers, and billboards to keep us focused on outward appearances; that way we will be dissatisfied with ourselves and our mates.
  • Make sure couples are too exhausted for physical intimacy; that way we will be tempted to look elsewhere.
  • Emphasize Santa and the Easter bunny; that way we will divert them from the real meaning of the holidays.
  • Involve our families in “good” causes so we won’t have time for “eternal” ones.
  • Make us self-sufficient.  Satan wants us so busy working in our own strength that we will never know the joy of God’s power working through us. *

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER

We don’t have to be like the little boy on the outside of the fence who knew the sting through painful experience, or the ignorant children about to learn.  God’s word is our guide that opens our eyes up to the danger and provides us with safe, loving boundaries that protect us from needless pain born from sin.  Through the knowledge of God’s word we can know the dangers of this world and teach our children the same.

Psalm 119:105   Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light to my path.

2 Peter 1:2-3    Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.

Mom, are you guided by God’s word each day? Are you teaching your children or grandchildren about the hidden pain in sin?

 

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*12 tactics  adapted from: Bob Gass, The Word forYou Today, September/October/November 2010 (Alphareta, GA: Bob Gass Ministries),21. As read in: Dr. David Jeremiah,  I Never Thought I’d See the Day! (New York:FaithWords,2011), 56-57.

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365 Ways to PRAY for Your Children

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“Dear God, please bless my kids and help us have a good day.

Keep everyone healthy. Give me strength and peace to get through the day.  Amen.”

Do you ever feel like you say the same prayer DAY after DAY?  Or, almost the same prayer?

WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU

PRAYED

A SPECIFIC & DIFFERENT PRAYER

FOR YOUR CHILDREN

EVERY DAY

CENTERED AROUND

GOD’s ATTRIBUTES?

Proverbs 18:10 says, “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous runs into it and is safe.”

2 Corinthians 3:18 says that the way we are transformed is by looking at who Christ is. If we want to see positive changes in ourselves and our children, we need to steadily gaze at our Heavenly Father and Christ so we can be transformed into their image.

HERE’s HOW

1. We must KNOW God

I invite you join moms across the United States who are participating in 365 DAYS of PRAISE.

Each day in 2013, you can receive in your email  inbox an ATTRIBUTE of GOD by which YOU can increasingly KNOW HIM and present Him to your children.  To get the daily attribute, simple sign up HERE in the 365 DAYS of PRAISE free subscription box.

2 – P.R.A.Y. for yourself and kids on the basis of God’s Daily Attribute

Each morning, use one God’s attribute as the focus of your prayer time.

For instance, let’s take Abba Father.

 - Read the attribute and verse in which God is manifested.

 - If you’re doing this WIITH your children for a family devotional, talk about how wonderful it is that God is our daddy in heaven. He’s adopted us. He loves us very much. We’re important to Him. We can ask Him anything, talk to Him about anything. He has gifts for us, a rich inheritance in Christ. (The depth to which you go should depend on the age and maturity of the child.)** Then using the acronym P.R.A.Y., (Praise, Repent, Ask, Yield) pray:

• Praise.  God,we praise You for being our Abba Father.

• Repent.  Forgive us when we forget how much You love us and when we disobey.

• Ask.  Help us to act and talk like Your children today.

• Yield. Fill our minds and hearts with Your thoughts today.

Using God’s attributes as the basis for your daily prayers for your children will broaden and develop your prayer life.  You’ll pray 365 specific ways for your children in 2013, all centered around them being conformed to God’s image. You’ll be praying 365 ways for yourself so that you’ll better reflect Christ to your children.

3 – Journal God’s daily attributes and your specific prayers.

The prayer journal God led me to design when my children were young, Prayers of My Heart, is a user friendly mommy designed journal.  Instead of recording prayers in a long column, you write the name of each of your family member at the top of a “Week at a Glance” column.  Then, record specific prayer requests under each name.

4 – Thank God for His answers. 

Philippians 4:6 says we are to ask God for our needs but to also thank Him for His answers.

In Prayers of My Heart, you can easily go back and write PTL for “Praise the Lord” or use a yellow highlighter to mark answered prayers.  This brings joy to you, your kids, and God as you see and remember, “Yes, I prayed for that and God answered.” It brings confidence to you and your kids that God sees, hears, and remembers you.

To pray, “Dear God, bless my kids and help us have a good day. Keep everyone healthy. Give me strength and peace to get through the day.  Amen,” is not a bad prayer.  But imagine if you added to it a focus on God’s attributes each day.  I invite you to join me in 365 DAYS of PRAISE and prayer for our children in 2013.

by Debbie Taylor Williams

by Debbie Taylor Williams

(**Excerpt from The Plan A MOM in a Plan B World: How to Raise Faithful Kids in a Flawed World, pg 218)

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Because You’re Raising a Mini-Me

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There he was gazing up at his daddy, wearing his daddy’s shoes, laughing like he laughed, putting his hand in his pocket the same way his daddy did and pointing his flat feet slightly outward as he walked…just like his daddy.

Although very different with unique personalities, like parrots, my boys unknowingly repeated what we said as if they thought of it themselves. Their response to the circumstances of life often was their impression of ours. The good, the bad and the ugly.

It’s what kids do. They mimic what they see and hear. That’s how they learn. They become Mini-Me’s.

Kind of scary, isn’t it?

We don’t always respond right. We don’t always love well. Hormones have a way of running amuck and life tends to get the best of us. What’s a mom to do when little hearts are being formed by the actions and reactions of her life? What are some things a mom can do when she realizes she’s raising a Mini-Me?

1. Don’t expect to be perfect. No mom is. We are all a work in progress. We all fail and we’re all flawed so give yourself the grace to know that a bad ‘mom’ moment doesn’t define you as a mom.

2. When you fail, fail well. That means, be quick to admit you messed up and just as quick to ask your children for forgiveness. When you blow it and repent, you teach them how to do the same. You instill in them the truth that failure is never final. You also help them learn to give others room to fail and room to grow.

3. Think before you speak and before you react. It’s a tidbit of wisdom passed down from generation to generation. The ol’ ‘think before you speak’ advice. Ask yourself… “Does what I’m getting ready to say really need to be heard?” and “How will what I’m getting ready to say affect my child?” If you give yourself time to think before you speak or react, your response will be different over half of the time.

4. Be a woman of integrity. Don’t talk badly about others…or they’ll do the same. Don’t talk bad about yourself…or they’ll talk bad about themselves. Don’t lie, cheat or steal…or they’ll become liars, cheaters or thieves. Be honest, gracious and dependable…and they will mimic your honesty, graciousness and dependability. Be kind and courteous…and they will imitate you.

5. Be a woman of faith. Trusting God in trying times and being the real deal are foundational faith builders in your children’s lives. They need to see that faith is true even when it’s tested most. They also can see phony faith a mile away. When a mom lives her faith well in front of her children they validate their children’s childlike faith. Be women of the Word and women of prayer. Pray for your children, with your children and in front of your children.

It’s pretty scary to know that little eyes are watching us and little hearts are being molded by the actions and reactions of our lives. But that’s why it’s so important to diligently guard our own lives because we know we are raising Mini-Me’s. David and Solomon are proof that what parents do in moderation, children will do in excess.

It’s a strange dichotomy…when children are growing up, they want to be like their parents. When they become teenagers, they swear they never will. When they become parents themselves, they begin acting like the parents they looked up to as a child.

It’s not easy being a mom. Life is hard and we don’t always get it right. We blow it. Yet, remembering that those little hearts long to fill their parents’ shoes…and one day they will. Let’s do everything we can to be sure the shoes we’re walking in will be ones worth filling.

Why?

Because we’re raising Mini-Me’s.

By: Stephanie Shott

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