The Mom Initiative http://www.themominitiative.com Ministering to the Moms of This Generation. Reaching the Heart of the Next Generation. Mon, 28 Aug 2017 20:49:39 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.6 Find the Help You’re Looking for Here http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/28/find-the-help-youre-looking-for-here/ Wed, 28 Dec 2016 02:30:06 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24954 Welcome to The MOM Initiative where you have access to over 1,600 articles written to help moms, grandmas, ministry leaders, mentors, and missionaries with just about every topic for every season and every need you may have. Please feel free to use our search engine to find what you are looking for. The search engine is located on the top right hand side of this page. If you are looking for something specific and you are unable to find it, please click this link to contact us and we will do what we can to help! SUBSCRIBE for our MONTHLY NEWSLETTER and ...

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Welcome to The MOM Initiative where you have access to over 1,600 articles written to help moms, grandmas, ministry leaders, mentors, and missionaries with just about every topic for every season and every need you may have.

Please feel free to use our search engine to find what you are looking for. The search engine is located on the top right hand side of this page.

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Ch…ch…ch…CHANGES Are Coming in 2017 for TMI http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/27/ch-ch-ch-changes-coming-2017-tmi/ Tue, 27 Dec 2016 05:30:28 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24898 The MOM Initiative is on the move and I’m super excited about some upcoming changes that we want you to know about. We are determined to prayerfully and faithfully stay laser focused to fulfill God’s call on this ministry and we are excited about the decisions we’ve made to move forward eagerly into 2017. Our goal to reach a million moms for Christ is what pumps blood through the veins of this ministry. That focus has been on the forefront of our hearts since before the ministry began. But we also wanted to provide online mentoring for moms, resourceful articles ...

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The MOM Initiative is on the move and I’m super excited about some upcoming changes that we want you to know about.

We are determined to prayerfully and faithfully stay laser focused to fulfill God’s call on this ministry and we are excited about the decisions we’ve made to move forward eagerly into 2017.

Our goal to reach a million moms for Christ is what pumps blood through the veins of this ministry. That focus has been on the forefront of our hearts since before the ministry began. But we also wanted to provide online mentoring for moms, resourceful articles for ministry leaders and missionaries, and encouragement for women. And that’s what we have done daily for the past five years.

But if your inbox is like mine, it’s loaded with piles of posts from sites you have subscribed to and love, but when they start stacking up, your intentions to read them succumb to your busy schedule. No matter how good it is or how much you’d love to read it, you find yourself reluctantly hitting the delete button and missing out on some powerful posts you wish you had time to read.

The MOM Initiative currently has over 1,600 posts that will minister to the hearts of moms, ministry leaders, missionaries, and mentors in a myriad of seasons.

Because of the extensive library of articles which we have accumulated – and because your inbox probably needs a break… and because The MOM Initiative’s primary focus is to connect with and help ministry leaders, missionaries, and mentors discover how to make mentoring missional and to experience the evangelistic and discipleship benefits of Titus 2 – we are leaving our blog page open for you and all who visit The MOM Initiative to search for help, hope, practical tips, and mentoring advice by using our blog search feature, but we are discontinuing the daily dose that is sent to your inbox.

Here’s what’s changing in 2017:

  1. The blog page will be available for readers to search but we won’t be inundating your inbox with daily posts any longer. We want to make information and encouragement available for you as you need it and not bombard your inbox everyday. We hope that will help you simplify too.
  2. Instead of a daily dose of encouragement from TMI, you’ll be receiving a monthly newsletter. Three newsletters will go out. One, to those who subscribe to the site. Another to those who are MOM Group Leaders, and another to those sweet moms who have joined the MILLION MOMs Team.
  3. Our MOM Approved Resource Page will expand to include more resources that we recommend for you to use individually, in a mentor relationship, in a small group, or in your MOM Group.
  4. We will continue to offer FREE Consultations with ministry leaders, missionaries, and mentors to help them develop revolutionary missional mentoring ministries that can profoundly impact their communities and this culture, but we will be investing much more time to help these front lines servants reach moms and the children they are raising for Christ.
  5. BETTER TOGETHER Conference will still be offered, but we will be streamlining it to make is as easy, peasy as possible for ministry leaders. And we are also looking at international options, as well.
  6. Teaching and training videos are in the process of being made to help leaders take the reigns of the ministries God has given them with a confidence and creativity that will help them be as effective as possible.
  7. More FREE Resources will be available to assist ministry leaders, missionaries, mentors, and moms in their personal lives as well as in their ministries. These resources will include Bible studies, devotion books, biblical help for life, as well as fun, helpful, and practical resources.

So, things are ch…ch…changing here at The MOM Initiative, but as Rafiki from The Lion King says, “Change is good!”

I hope these changes will help lesson your inbox load and provide you with FREE resources that will help you in your journey no matter what season you are in and no matter what God has called you to do.

I’m thankful for each of you who are subscribers and I hope this will encourage you to share The MOM Initiative with your family, friends, ministry leaders, and missionaries. 

We want to be a blessing, not a burden, and when your inbox overfloweth, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. With The MOM Initiative, you won’t get a daily, “10 Ways to do this…” or “5 Reasons for that…” You’ll just get a monthly newsletter and the option to browse our site for the information you need when you need it.

Now go enjoy 2017, sweet friends! There’s a year ahead of you, and we are here to help you in any way we can!


We’d also love to hear from you as you start the new year if you are a ministry leader looking for help in expanding your current ministry, wanting to develop a more focused Titus 2 ministry, wanting to learn more about how to mentor moms and/or make mentoring missional, or wanting to start a new women’s ministry! 

Email us today and we will get right back with you to schedule a personal ministry consultation call.

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What New Thing Are You Ready to See God Do in Your Life in 2017? http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/26/what-new-thing-are-you-ready-to-see-god-do-in-your-life-in-2017/ Mon, 26 Dec 2016 04:30:33 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=21593 “Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert.”  Isaiah 43:19 This is it! The beginning of a new year! A new beginning! A time when people make resolutions with the lifespan of a butterfly. Beautiful while it lasts, but unfortunately, it doesn’t last long. I’m not into resolutions. But I am into reflection and redirection. I’m not into resolutions. But I am into reflection and redirection. @themominitiativ #Isaiah43:19Click To Tweet It’s good to take a glance in the ...

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Behold, I will do a new thing,
Now it shall spring forth;
Shall you not know it?
I will even make a road in the wilderness
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This is it! The beginning of a new year!

A new beginning!

A time when people make resolutions with the lifespan of a butterfly.

Beautiful while it lasts, but unfortunately, it doesn’t last long.

I’m not into resolutions. But I am into reflection and redirection.


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It’s good to take a glance in the rear view mirror of our lives… we need to go there. We just can’t give ourselves permission to stay there.

Looking back helps us move forward with more determination and intentionality and as we pray and plan for 2017, we need to remember that God is in the business of doing new things! 

He’s really good at new things!

SO… WHAT NEW THING ARE YOU READY TO SEE GOD DO IN YOUR LIFE THIS YEAR?

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Heaviness and Newness http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/23/heaviness-and-newness/ Fri, 23 Dec 2016 05:00:30 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24840 There is a painful swelling that happens during pregnancy. A round womb full of life, full of hope. But also very full and tired and ready. Ready for the birth of the baby. Ready for the heaviness to be over.   Isn’t this the way of birthing all new things? A painful swelling as something new is being knitted together. And the heaviness is exhausting. It irritates and stretches tight. Ready for the heaviness to be over.   When the knitting is complete, it is time. But birthing something new isn’t restful or easy. It is a painful labor, travail, ...

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There is a painful swelling that happens during pregnancy.

A round womb full of life, full of hope.

But also very full and tired and ready.

Ready for the birth of the baby.

Ready for the heaviness to be over.

 

Isn’t this the way of birthing all new things?

A painful swelling as something new is being knitted together.

And the heaviness is exhausting.

It irritates and stretches tight.

Ready for the heaviness to be over.

 

When the knitting is complete, it is time.

But birthing something new isn’t restful or easy.

It is a painful labor, travail, work.

What if the mother refuses the work?

All the stretching the heaviness would be in vain.

 

So we must choose as God knits new things in our lives.

Will we let the painful swelling be for naught?

Will we hold tight to the heaviness because it is the burden we know?

Will we say it is too hard and give up?

Or will we do the true labor to allow God to birth something new?

 

 And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Revelation 21:5a (ESV)

Is God knitting something new in your life? How can we pray for you as you labor?

 

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When Heaven and Earth Collided http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/21/when-heaven-and-earth-collided/ Wed, 21 Dec 2016 05:00:17 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24934 “Unto us a Son is given…and His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” (Is. 9:6 NKJV) The Bible is filled with prophecies of Christ’s advent. And many generations came and died without seeing Him. Until, the prophecies came to pass. When heaven’s Temple came down… “But when the time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under law, to redeem those under law, that we might receive the full rights of sons.” (Gal. 4:4-5 NIV) …a Son was given to Mary and Joseph. “…the One to be Ruler ...

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“Unto us a Son is given…and His name will be called Wonderful,
Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

(Is. 9:6 NKJV)

The Bible is filled with prophecies of Christ’s advent. And many generations came and died without seeing Him. Until, the prophecies came to pass.

When heaven’s Temple came down…

“But when the time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under law, to redeem those under law, that we might receive the full rights of sons.” (Gal. 4:4-5 NIV)

…a Son was given to Mary and Joseph. “…the One to be Ruler in Israel, whose goings forth are from of old, from everlasting.” (Micah 5:2 NKJV) The One Who was “the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation.” (Col. 1:15 NKJV)

The begotten of Eternity. God come in Person. The Ancient of times.

…and the Temple entered a temple. The collision of Divinity and humanity!

This Temple, destined to be destroyed, torn down, ripped apart, by the hands of earth’s religionists, would one day speak these words, “Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.” (John 2:19 NKJV)

Raise up. To arouse from sitting, reclining, sleep, or even death. But they didn’t get it, “It has taken forty-six years to build this temple, and will You raise it up in three days?” (John 2:20 NKJV)

But this Temple was no ordinary earthly temple. This Temple was of divine origin. (John 2:21)

The heavenly Temple was presented in the earthly temple…

And “when the days of [Mary’s] purification according to the law of Moses were completed, [Mary and Joseph] brought Him to Jerusalem to present Him to the Lord.” (Luke 2:22 NKJV)

The Firstborn, not only of Mary but of all creation, was nestled in the arms of His earthly mother and dedicated to His heavenly Father.

“Oh my Lord…You sent Your Son to save us
Oh my Lord…Your very self You gave us
Oh my Lord…That sin may not enslave us and love may reign once more
Oh my Lord…When in the crip You found Him
Oh my Lord…A golden halo crown’d Him
Oh my Lord…They gathered all around Him to see Him and adore”
(Some versions of Mary’s Boy Child contain these ending words)

Heaven’s Temple entered earth to give those on earth an entrance into heaven’s Temple!

“Joy to the world! the Lord is come; Let earth receive her King.”

May the Temple of heaven fill the earthly temple of your heart with Joy!

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Merry Christmas from the MOMs at The MOM Initiative http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/20/merry-christmas-moms-mom-initiative/ Tue, 20 Dec 2016 05:30:07 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=15842   I LOVE watching the movie Elf!  It’s one of those movies that has given our family an arsenal of cute quotes to draw from at random.  Quotes like, “Smiling is my favorite!”     And, “There’s room for everyone on the Nice List.”   And I love when Buddy discovers that Santa is coming to the store and shouts, “Santa’s coming! I KNOW him!”   More importantly that a cheesy, cute fairly tell, is the stunning truth that JESUS IS COMING…and I REALLY KNOW HIM!  How about you? Because the truth is, there is no Santa. Not anymore. Yes…I know ...

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I LOVE watching the movie Elf

It’s one of those movies that has given our family an arsenal of cute quotes to draw from at random. 

Quotes like, “Smiling is my favorite!”

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And, “There’s room for everyone on the Nice List.”

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And I love when Buddy discovers that Santa is coming to the store and shouts, “Santa’s coming! I KNOW him!”

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More importantly that a cheesy, cute fairly tell, is the stunning truth that JESUS IS COMING…and I REALLY KNOW HIM! 

How about you?

Because the truth is, there is no Santa. Not anymore.

Yes…I know there was a St. Nick… and from what I’ve read, he had a heart of gold.

But more important than the fairytale that Santa is coming, is the reality that Jesus came and is coming again… and when He came, He changed everything… and when He comes again, every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God.

I bow now. I hope you do too!


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And the biggest gift and most amazing reality in my life is that I know Him… the One who came to save us from our sins… the One who spoke this world into being… the One who is all-knowing, all-powerful, omnipresent, and who needs no one or nothing to exist. He didn’t have a beginning and He will never have an end.

He is God.

And I can’t believe that He has given me the unexplainable gift to know Him. To really know Him!

JESUS! His name is Jesus!

He is…

The Savior of the world

The Light of the world

The Lion of Judah

The Redeemer

The Great High Priest

The Great Shepherd

The Great I AM

The Way

The Truth

The Life

The Beginning

The End

The Alpha

The Omega

The Branch

The Bread of Life

The Chief Shepherd

The Cornerstone

The Counselor

The Deliverer

The Desire of Nations

The Door

The Everlasting Father

The Prince of Peace

I AM

Immanuel

The King of kings

The Lord of lords

The Lamb of God

The Messiah

The Mighty God

The Rock 

The Resurrection and the Life

The Son of God

The Son of Man

The Advocate

The Amen

Jesus! He is who we really celebrate on December 25th. The One who came as a babe in a manager to save us from our sins.. the One who has no equal, no limitations and no need of anything from anyone.

And I just can’t get over the fact that I KNOW HIM!

Do you?

If you do, I’d love for you to leave a comment and share a bit about how you came to know Him.

If you don’t, you can. There’s room for everyone at the foot of the cross. 

It is beyond my comprehension that the God of creation invites us to enter into an eternal relationship with Him.


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If you don’t know Jesus and you’d like to know how you can, please email me at info@themominitiative.com. I would love to send you some information about what the Bible says about how you can know Him too!

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU AND YOURS FROM ALL OF THE MOMs at THE MOM INITIATIVE!

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Two Books Perfect for Moms This Christmas http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/19/two-books-perfect-moms-christmas/ Mon, 19 Dec 2016 05:00:01 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24929 As Christmas draws near, we are all busy shopping for the perfect gift for our loved ones. Today, I wanted to share two books that make great stocking stuffers for your mom, sister, friend, (or yourself!).  The first book is a devotional by Jennifer Rothschild. It’s called 66 Ways God Loves You and is all about experiencing God’s love for you in every book of the Bible. I’m a big fan of Jennifer, having met her last year when my church hosted Fresh Grounded Faith. In the introduction, Jennifer shares about how she lost her eye sight at fifteen and now ...

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As Christmas draws near, we are all busy shopping for the perfect gift for our loved ones. Today, I wanted to share two books that make great stocking stuffers for your mom, sister, friend, (or yourself!). 

The first book is a devotional by Jennifer Rothschild. It’s called 66 Ways God Loves You and is all about experiencing God’s love for you in every book of the Bible. I’m a big fan of Jennifer, having met her last year when my church hosted Fresh Grounded Faith. In the introduction, Jennifer shares about how she lost her eye sight at fifteen and now instead of reading the Bible, she listens to it on audio and through apps on her computer and phone. She writes, “No matter how I experience the Bible, it always has the same effect on me. One profound, unavoidable, irreducible, soul-quaking effect – I feel the love of God. 

She shares in this sweet devotional about how God tells you He loves you in sixty-six ways, in every book of the Bible. The devotionals each day are short stories from each of the books of the Bible and how God wrote those books for you. From Genesis to Revelation, He knows you and sees you and His love challenges and changes you. 

What I like about this devotional is how it is illustrated. Each page on the inside mimics the design on the outside and it is a perfect, quick read to help you start your day. 66 Ways God Loves You will inspire and remind you that God loves you!

You can read more about 66 Ways God Loves You here. 

In Listen, Love, Repeat, Karen Ehman writes about how to be other-centered in a self-centered world. She says, “Our culture is obsessed with self. In our schedules, our relationships, and especially online. But we are less content than in decades past. The reason? We have forgotten the joy that comes from putting others first.

I’ve had a chance to listen to Karen at writing conferences and I love how she isn’t afraid to call us out on things like being self-centered but she does it with wit and humor. Also, Karen loves to cook so this book is filled with yummy recipes that are great for serving others. 

If you want to spread a little kindness this Christmas, Listen, Love, Repeat is a great book to give to others or read for yourself as a reminder of why we put the effort into sharing love. 

You can learn more about Listen, Love, Repeat here. 

What books are on your Christmas wish list this year? Comment below, I’d love to check them out! 

Celebrating you,

Christen

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Surviving December With Small Kids http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/16/surviving-december-small-kids-2/ Fri, 16 Dec 2016 05:30:59 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24923 What do you get when you mix two young children, one tired mom, and a Christmas to-do list? Definitely not peace on Earth. “Don’t step there!” My hand jerked toward my toddler’s ankles, but too late. Her foot crunched a row of Christmas ornaments arranged meticulously on the rug, prepped for hanging. “I sorry, Momma!” Her sock hovered over a sparkly blue star, crushed into five pieces. “I told you to stay on the sofa! Sweetie, if you want to help Mommy decorate the tree, you need to be very careful around the ornaments. Now it’s broken.” Her bottom lip ...

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What do you get when you mix two young children, one tired mom, and a Christmas to-do list?

Definitely not peace on Earth.

“Don’t step there!” My hand jerked toward my toddler’s ankles, but too late. Her foot crunched a row of Christmas ornaments arranged meticulously on the rug, prepped for hanging.

“I sorry, Momma!” Her sock hovered over a sparkly blue star, crushed into five pieces.

“I told you to stay on the sofa! Sweetie, if you want to help Mommy decorate the tree, you need to be very careful around the ornaments. Now it’s broken.”

Her bottom lip quivered, fat tears burst down her cheeks, and she ran out of the room.

Oh, great, I thought. Way to go, Mom. Now you’ve outdone your perfectionist self.

Just then, big sister started wailing, too. “I liked that ornament! It was the best one! Waaaahhh!”

Gently, I placed the shards of star in my hand and sighed.

‘Tis the season. Heaven help me.

I love December. The decorations, carols, shopping, wrapping, parties, cards, baking—all of it. I’ve always loved it. So when my husband and I started a family, I imagined double the fun. Christmas through a child’s eyes is supposed to infuse the whole house with magic, right? I pictured rosy-cheek cherubs in footie pajamas, stirring marshmallows into mugs of hot cocoa while the whole family sings Jingle Bells.

In reality, my household looks a little different.

Oh, I have a couple rosy-cheek cherubs alright. Only they prefer to eat those marshmallows straight from the bag, for breakfast.

They tangle yards of garland into a useless heap.

They poke each other in the head with spatulas.

They spike fevers on Christmas Eve.

So you see? A perfect holiday portrait we are not. I’ll bet your family isn’t, either. But then, the only perfect thing in this world is God’s love.

And isn’t that what Christmas is really about?

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life,” (John 3:16).

I once asked the women in my Bible study about their plans for Thanksgiving. Among a table of 30-something moms was one seasoned grandma. She was good for our souls.

“I don’t look forward to the holidays like I used to,” she confessed, “now that the kids are grown and gone. Most of them won’t be home this year.”

Think about that. My girls are now 6 and 3. That means I have 12 Decembers left with both of them at home. Even fewer before they outgrow the magic. Before glossy toy catalogs give way to Aeropostale shirts and iTunes gift cards. Before—gulp—friends are more appealing than Mom. Someday, my girls won’t beg to help decorate the tree anymore. Maybe I’ll beg them.

And I’m freaking out about broken ornaments? Wow. It’s time to shift my priorities.

“Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom,” (Psalm 90:12).

This month, I want to snuggle in front of the TV, watching the Grinch and eating popcorn. I will choose not to notice how many kernels fall onto the carpet.

I want to bake six dozen cookies and let the kids crack the eggs. Spread the frosting. Lick palms full of sprinkles. And I will choose not to mind how many shells I have to fish out of the dough, or how lopsided the snowmen turn out. We’re baking joy into every bite.

I will drop my crazy to-do list on a whim, to sit beside the Christmas tree and let its twinkly spell wash over me. I won’t scold my kids for reaching to touch ornaments, or for shaking boxes placed under the tree.

It’s December with my kids. Messy and fleeting, and so, so precious.

“Momma, I sorry I broked da ordament. It was a accident.” My little one wrapped her arms around my leg and kissed my knee. My heart swelled into my throat.

“I’m sorry I upset you, sweetheart.” I lifted her onto my lap and pressed my nose into her wispy hair. “I have a special job for you. Will you help me put candy canes on the tree?”

Her face lit up. “Can I eat one?”

{Sigh.}

“Sure.”

What the heck. It’s Christmas.

And I still love it. Do you?

Blessings,
Becky

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9 Ways to Raise a Rebellious Kid http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/14/9-ways-raise-rebellious-kid/ http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/14/9-ways-raise-rebellious-kid/#comments Wed, 14 Dec 2016 05:00:10 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24868 Fact: Kids love to push the limits.  Fact: Rebellion is a human condition.  Yet there are things we do as parents that encourage the growth and intensity of a rebellious heart. Here are 9  ways to fan the flames of rebellion. Expect perfection: Performance based parenting focuses on the outside observables  rather than internal  notables. Notice outcomes but focus on developing your child’s character. Rather than only commentating on appearance or performance, “You look so beautiful” say, “Thanks for helping your sister today. You have such a kind heart.”  Punish for every infraction: Instead start saying what you want. When the child messes up, retrain. Next move to a natural consequence, ...

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Fact: Kids love to push the limits. 

Fact: Rebellion is a human condition. 

Yet there are things we do as parents that encourage the growth and intensity of a rebellious heart.

Here are 9  ways to fan the flames of rebellion.

  1. Expect perfection: Performance based parenting focuses on the outside observables  rather than internal  notables. Notice outcomes but focus on developing your child’s character. Rather than only commentating on appearance or performance, “You look so beautiful” say, “Thanks for helping your sister today. You have such a kind heart.” 
  2. Punish for every infraction: Instead start saying what you want. When the child messes up, retrain. Next move to a natural consequence, let the punishment fit the crime. Then… if things continue down the wrong path and become habitual move to punishment. Start small,  you can always go bigger. Don’t forget to include grace and forgiveness when correcting.
  3. Unreasonable exceptions: You know your child. Parent to your child’s unique personality. Take your child’s weaknesses, strengths, age, and stage into consideration.
  4. Conditional love: Love no matter the behavior. Don’t withhold love and affection. Avoid saying things like, “You don’t deserve….”
  5. Micro-manage: Back off. Avoid hovering and giving all kinds of “helpful” advice.  We want our kids to learn not just follow instructions. 
  6. Redo: Don’t redo what your child did. Feel free to retrain but avoid redoing. He will think, “What’s the point loading the dishwasher she will only redo it.” 
  7. Threaten: Unless you mean it, don’t say it. 
  8. Lecture: The lecture approach creates a brain freeze in the child. He will learn to tune you out. Short and sweet sound-bytes are much more effective. 
  9. Guilt: Say what you mean. Avoid the statements dripping with guilt induced language. “Oh I work so hard and now the sink is full of dishes…” rather say, “Okay gang, time to clean up the kitchen. Garrett, put the dishes in the dishwasher. Charlotte, pick up the toys and in put them in the box.” 

Truth…we all fall into the category of being an over-the-top controller at times, especially when we are busy. But… if we are typically overbearing and demanding and if we focus solely on rules while neglecting to build relationship, BIG time rebellion is right around the corner. 

 Do not remember the sins of my youth and my rebellious ways; 

according to your love remember me, for you, Lord, are good. 

Psalm 25:7 

by, 
Lori Wildenberg

To find out more about parenting styles and how to foster a relationship with your child that lasts a lifetime head over to Amazon to get Raising Little Kids with Big Love (toddler-9) or Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love (tween- young adult).

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Add Peace to Your Christmas List This Year http://www.themominitiative.com/2016/12/13/add-peace-christmas-list-year/ Tue, 13 Dec 2016 05:00:50 +0000 http://www.themominitiative.com/?p=24919 We all need some reminders about Christ’s peace and how to attain it. In the craziness of this holiday season with dinner parties, Santa events, and of course shopping, let’s dig a bit further into peace and what God’s word says about it. Let’s make peace with others. To have a more righteous character, God asks us to be the sowers of peace. Try your best to get along with others in peace today and always. Pray to God for help with this. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness (James 3:18). If you want more peace ...

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We all need some reminders about Christ’s peace and how to attain it. In the craziness of this holiday season with dinner parties, Santa events, and of course shopping, let’s dig a bit further into peace and what God’s word says about it.

Let’s make peace with others. To have a more righteous character, God asks us to be the sowers of peace. Try your best to get along with others in peace today and always. Pray to God for help with this.

Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness (James 3:18).

If you want more peace in your life, spread it. The ending result of peace in one’s heart is a life of joy. Doesn’t that sound wonderful…more joy too.

Deceit is in the hearts of those who plot evil, but those who promote peace have joy (Proverbs 12:20).

Live a life without sin and folly, and you shall have peace. The more you align your life with God’s word, the more peace you will have in Him. A life of this world full of sin will definitely not reap peace. We must LISTEN and then DO as God instructs us to live….as faithful servants.

I will listen to what God the LORD says; he promises peace to his people, his faithful servants–but let them not turn to folly (Psalm 85:8).

Watch your tongue. Christ’s brother James warns us about the tongue being an instrument of evil. We can cut people down and harm them emotionally with our sharp words of judgement. Often people have lasting scars from words that hurt them long ago. Let’s avoid this at all costs by remembering to be slow in speaking, slow to anger, and listen a lot more than we speak to bring more peace to our lives and to the lives of others we know.

…but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the like ness of God. From the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. (James 3:8-10).

With Christ’s help, I hope you find more peace this holiday season than ever before!

Merry Christmas,

AllisonD

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