Motherhood Is Hard Work

Without a doubt being a mom is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had in my life. Never would I have imagined the sheer number of emotions and the intensity each one brings with it. It’s true, motherhood is hard work, and it’s time for moms to stick together.

It’s my heart that by coming to you as a “seasoned” (that’s a nicer way of saying “older”) mom and sharing a little bit of what I’ve learned on the journey of being a mom.

Here’s what I can tell you…it doesn’t get easier.

Yeah, not the answer you expected, I know.

Yes, each stage has its highs and lows, but the motherhood part–well, it’s just as hard today as it was the day I brought my little bundle of joy home. Now that bundle of joy is inching closer to twenty one and the “baby”, well, he’s closing in on nineteen.

I’ve been on this motherhood journey for a very long time and I’d love to share a few motherhood myths that I’ve seen along the way.

Motherhood Myths

  • I can do it all on my own – This happens when we can’t, won’t or don’t ask for help. We put on our wonder woman suit and will do whatever it takes to get it done.

Here’s the truthTwo people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NLT

Here’s a better way – Seek out a couple of friends that you can count on to jump in and help you get it done. Whether it is a babysitting swap so you can get your cleaning done, or coordinating a group outing so that you can take some time to just slow down and breathe a little bit.


  • At least I’m not that bad – Ouch, we’ve all been there. We’ve seen the mom (sometimes it’s us) in the store, at the doctors office, in the car line that is right on the edge of a breakdown. The kids are going all over the place and she’s doing whatever she can to keep it all together.

Here’s the truthGod will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether good or bad. Ecclesiastes 12:14 NLT

Here’s a better way – Don’t just stand there and stare, reach out and offer to help. No, not in a creepy way, but in a “hey I’ve been there what can I do to help way”. You would be surprised what a friendly smile or word of encouragement can do in a moment like that.


  • I’m the only one… - you name it, at one point or another, we’ve all felt that we’re the only one who couldn’t potty train our child, couldn’t teach our kids algebra, couldn’t _______ (fill in the blank).

Here’s the truthWhat is happening now has happened before, and what will happen in the future has happened before, because God makes the same things happen over and over again. Ecclesiastes 3:15 NLT

Here’s a better way - Stop. Take a breathe. Pray. Seek godly counsel. Then rest in knowing that you are not the only one. Not in a million years. There is another mom out there at this very minute going through either the same thing or something very similar.


Mom, you can do this.

Motherhood is hard work, no doubt about it, but God has chosen you to the the mother of your child(ren).

He will prepare you, walk with you and guide you every step of the way.

Don’t give up.
Don’t give in.
Seek other moms to talk with, lean on and walk beside.

If you do that, then you will see the beauty of what happens when moms stick together. 

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




10 Things Single Moms Should Consider Before Dating


Hey single mom… I wish we were hanging out over coffee and chatting because I know what you’re going through. I’ve been there, so I understand how hard it is to be a single mom.

Feeling the pressure and the pain that comes with trying to fulfill both roles of the mom and the dad is daunting. The physical, financial, and emotional strain of it all can wear a woman out.

Motherhood is a beautiful thing but being a mom can be hard… and being a single mom… well, it’s just extra hard.

I remember things like…

Making a sandwich out of bread and a pack of ketchup I found in my fridge so I had enough food for my son to eat.

Wondering what I was going to do and who to call when my car broke down.

Trying to figure out how to fix the toilet.

Wishing I didn’t have to take the trash out at night.

Feeling insecure, inadequate, unsafe, frustrated, and even afraid. 

Wishing there was a man in the house to be a male role model for my son.

For some reason, I thought finding a knight in shining armor who would calm my fears, fix my toilet and take out the garbage would be the answer to all my woes. 

It’s wasn’t.

And I made a lot of mistakes in my single mom journey.

Today, I want to share with you some important lessons about being a single mom and dating… and most I learned the hard way.

1. Don’t focus on finding a man. Focus on being a good mom. You don’t need a man to complete you or your children. 

2. Don’t even think about it if he isn’t a Christian. Missionary dating rarely converts him but almost always converts you. That whole, “Don’t be unequally yoked” thing is for your protection.

3. Wait until you’re talking about marriage before you introduce your boyfriend to them. Your children don’t need men coming in and out of their lives, messing with their emotions and confusing them. 

4. Take your relationship slow. If you’re talking marriage, your children will need time to adjust – so after you’ve introduced him, begin scheduling weekly ‘family’ dates so your children have the opportunity to get to know him well and you can see how he relates to your kids.

5. Your job is to protect your kids, so don’t leave them alone with him until you know him REALLY well and have seen him interact with them. There have been some terrible things that have happened to children because a mom left them with a man she was dating. 

6. Believe your children. If they tell you something they have seen in him that raises a red flag, believe them. And if a red flag goes up, then he needs to go… quickly.

7. Recognize that if you get married that your boyfriend will become your children’s stepdad. So, it’s not only about if he is a good man or a man whom you love, but will he be a good dad who can love your kids well.

8. You can’t change him. Remember the man you dreamed of marrying when you were a little girl. No little girl grew up thinking, “I want to marry an alcoholic or a drug addict.” Or “When I grow up, I want to marry a man who won’t work.” Or “I can’t wait to marry a man who is controlling, abusive, or angry.” You’re kids deserve so much more than that and so do you!

9. Don’t settle for less than God has for you. Don’t let the desire to be married be so insatiable that you would settle for less than God has for you.

10. Keep your priorities right whether you’re dating someone or not. First…Focus on your relationship with God. He is perfectly able  to put the right man in your life and your children’s lives at just the right time. Second…focus on being the mom God created you to be and developing character in your kids. Put their needs above yours. That’s what love does.

SO…there you have it. TEN things single moms should consider before they begin dating. There are so many more things I wish I could share with you. Places where I failed, lessons that I learned, things I wish I could have changed, and a couple things I actually did right. 

But I want you to know that God has a plan for you and your children and He is there for you. In the middle of your single mom journey… let Him be who He said He is… a Father to the fatherless… a Husband to the husbandless.

“For your Maker is your husband,
The Lord of hosts is His name;
And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel;
He is called the God of the whole earth.
For the Lord has called you
Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit,
Like a youthful wife when you were refused,”
Says your God.” Isaiah 54:5-6 (NKJV)


JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




How asking for help can make YOU a more joyful mom…

Do you have a hard time asking for help, even when you know you need it?

Do you have a lot on your plate right now, but continue to try to do it all (all on your own)?

Take a minute to watch this short video from my talk at the Better Together conference, hear how I learned my lesson the hard way, and discover how asking for help can make YOU a more joyful mom!

(click here if the video isn’t displaying for you below)

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




Praying Romans 12:2 for Your Kids & the Cross-eyed Salmon


I want my kids to be like a salmon.

To go against the flow. 

But it’s not easy.

In fact, it’s much harder to go against the flow than to just go with it.

It’s dangerous.

The enemy awaits.

The current is strong.

The journey is long.

Certain death awaits.

The kind of death that teaches them to die to self so that the life of Christ will shine through them.

The kind of death that makes the world unattractive and the destination the desire of their hearts.

A salmon.

Yeah… I want my kids to be like a salmon… a cross-eyed salmon.

With their eyes focused on the cross as they go hard against the flow.

That’s what I’m praying for.

How about you?

Pray on, sweet mom! Pray that your children will go against the flow.

Just like a salmon.

A cross-eyed salmon.


JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




Get Back to Baseline as a Family

get back to baseline as a familyIt’s 7 pm and the doctor has ordered me to fast, so that blood-work may be taken and tested first thing in the morning. So I fast from food and keep hydrated with water, knowing that 12 vials of blood tomorrow will necessitate being super-hydrated. Why does the doctor order the fast, you might wonder?  He does so to get a baseline account of where I am with no influencing values created by eating certain foods.  You see, some foods could elevate certain numbers, causing the doctor to be more aggressive in treatment than necessary. 

Thus, a baseline value gives a known measure or position to calculate or locate something. (Merriam Webster)

Along the same lines, there are times in our family life and personal life when we need to fast from something to measure or locate something else.  It is beneficial.  It is telling–keeping our hand on the pulse of our own life and the lives of our loved ones. There are times we need to get back to baseline as a family.

Personally and recently, I have fasted from both caffeine and sugar.  The first three days are difficult and trying.  I get headaches.  I am grouchy. I start feeling the lack and begin to edge on desperation. Then the fourth day arrives and generally, I find that I am feeling lighter, freer and better than I had been feeling in months. For a time, I may fast from either or both, and often my energy level increases, my metabolism increases and my mental capacity is clearer.

I have also fasted from food for a day or two over the past few years.  It is a time, when I dig deeper into God’s Word and seek Him specifically for better understanding regarding deep concerns I may have.  I hear God better when I fast–there is just less clutter in my mind, when my diet is composed of His Word and liquids (water, broth and juice)  Fasting is a very good personal choice for a time in every person’s life. By the way, I highly recommend this free resource, if you are considering a food fast: Your Personal Guide to Fasting and Prayer by Dr. Bill Bright

As a family, there are times (at least two weeks every year, sometimes more) when I begin to feel and sense things getting out of balance: tempers flaring, fighting, rudeness, lack of focus, lack of close community and the like.

Every time I sense it, I begin to let them know a technology free week is coming.  I prepare their minds and hearts in advance.  Then I set the dates and times.  My Chris and I are specific about the things from which we are fasting (we call it unplugging), like television, electronic games, PlayStation and Wii. We are also specific about how we will fill the void: reading, radio, CD’s (they all LOVE Adventures in Odyssey and get disks from the library), board games, puzzles, outdoor activities, family projects, friends and field trips. 

The first couple of days are very difficult. They struggle and have withdrawals. They are grumpy, edgy and whiny.  I get on the edge of desperation and wonder why I had to go and make this our unplugged week. You could say my resolve is weakened. By about the third day, I begin noticing interactions between our four children. They are reading to one another–without being asked to read to their sibling! They are playing board games. They are making forts out of boxes and pretending. The rude behavior and temperamental attitudes have diminished greatly. By the fifth day, they are asking when we can get back to mom reading aloud the story we are working through and can we play such and such board game after supper or can we walk to the park and play catch!

I am not suggesting that we hit perfect family status as our baseline. 

No, but we begin to see and locate what is going on in the hearts of our children–finding that the pulse of our family is vital to the outworkings of everything else we do individually.  It takes a little extra work on our part, as parents.  It takes more of our own focus, too, which is unfortunately often distracted by many things. But it gives us a sense of where we are as a family and how we can be a community that cares for and loves each other. With all the influential noise eliminated, we begin to see and hear and understand more clearly. For us, it works as a family.

Perhaps you already live in this place all the time.  Well that is a wonderful way to live! However, we like to watch television and play electronic games and such.  It is part of what we do, as a family. But like everyone, we can get out of balance. To find the balance, you need to get back to the baseline. Then you can rightly gather the known measure to calculate or the position to locate where your heart is.

For friends, where your heart is abiding indicates the treasure. And the treasure?  Well, sometimes the treasure is an idol that needs to be taken down and put in its rightful place. Then freedom and fullness abounds!

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




Freezer Foods for Fall

freezer meals

Pin It!

A few weeks ago, I was inspired by The Pioneer Woman to make some freezer meals. We are an on-the-go family but really enjoy a home cooked meal much more than eating out. I’m usually pretty good at cooking dinner on the weeknights (thank you Mr. Crock Pot) but often on the weekends we veg out on frozen pizza or order take out. By Sunday night, the only thing that sounds good is food that takes too much effort for me to prepare. Hence the need for homemade freezer meals. With a grocery list in hand and a weekend at home, I was able to prepare six meals that my family can enjoy on the nights that we crave comfort food but not the work.

Here are Six Freezer Friendly Meals:

2014-10-03 17.33.18-2

 Warning! Your kitchen will get messy :)

Friday night I started with my chicken meals. I bought a big bag of frozen chicken from Sam’s and cooked my chicken breasts. I keep it simple by cooking chicken on the skillet in extra virgin olive oil and season it with salt and pepper. This made it super simple to just throw the chicken into the meals I was making. I even had some leftover that I froze to use on salads and sandwiches during the week. Here are my 3 freezer meal chicken recipes:

1. Chicken Spaghetti

This meal is super easy and always a crowd pleaser. It also freezes really well in a large throwaway dish.

3 cups of cooked chicken

1 can cream of chicken soup

1/2 cup milk

3 cups cooked rice

1 cup queso dip

Stir all together and back at 350 degrees for about 25 minutes. Top with shredded cheese.

2. Teriyaki chicken

I accidentally cooked too much rice for my chicken spaghetti so I used the leftover rice to make teriyaki chicken. All I did was brown some chopped onions in the bottom of a pan with two eggs and added the rice and diced up chicken. Then I seasoned it with teriyaki sauce, soy sauce, ground ginger, a 1/4 teaspoon sesame oil, and a tablespoon of ketchup. After that, I added cooked edamame and shredded carrots.

3. Chicken Pot Pie

I’ve been dying to make a homemade chicken pot pie ever since I ate my friend Janet’s recipe. I even made my own pie crust and I can’t wait to heat this up on a cool fall night.

Start with the dough first because it needs to sit in the refrigerator for an hour. I made four batches of this dough so I could pull them out of the freezer whenever I needed a pie crust.

Flaky Butter Crust:

1 1/4 cups all purpose flour

1/4 teaspoon salt

7 tablespoons unsalted butter, chilled and cut into pieces

1 to 2 tablespoons ice water

To make the dough in a food processor, combine the flour, salt, and butter in the processor and process untilt he mixture resembles coarse crumbs, about 10 seconds. With the machine running, add the ice water through the feed tube and pulse quickly 5 or 6 times, or until the dough comes together and starts to pull away from the sides of the container. Gather the dough into a ball, flatten it into a disk, and wrap in plastic wrap. Regrigerate for at least 1 hour.

De’s Homemade Chicken Pot Pie:

1 cup diced carrots

1 cup diced celery

1 cup diced onion

1 cup frozen green peas

1 whole rotisserie chicken (I shredded four chicken breasts)

1 1/2 cups half n half

3 cups chicken stock

1 stick butter

1 box pillsbury regrigerated pie crust (I made my own)

1/2 cup all purpose flour

1 tsp salt

1/2 tsp pepper

Saute carrots, celery and onion in butter over medium high heat in large deep skillet until slightly softened – about 7 or 8 minutes. Add flour and stir for one minute to cook.

Mix half n half and chicken stock in bowl. Pour into vegetable mixture. Reduce heat to me-low and stir until thickened.

Pull meat from chicken and add to mixture. Add salt, pepper, and peas.

Place one pie crust (or half of your homemade dough) in a deep casserole dish (I did mine in a pie pan so I could make two pies out of this recipe). Bake the bottom for 10 minutes so it doesn’t get soggy.

Pour misture on top of crust. Place 2nd crust on top and squeeze edges to seal. Brush egg white on top of crust to make a pretty brown crust. Make 2 or 3 slits in middle of crust to release steam.

Bake on 400 degrees for 35-40 minutes until bubbly. Cool 10 minutes before serving. Serves 8 people. Forget the calories and enjoy!

On Saturday, I woke up and started on my beef recipes (it was game day so it seemed appropriate!)


4. Taco soup

I actually substituted ground turkey in this recipe instead of beef to keep it on the healthy side. My girls love this soup and I served it for lunch with The Pioneer Woman’s mini blueberry cornbread muffins. Yum!


My taco soup is super easy. Just brown your turkey and drain out the excess fat. Season it with a taco seasoning packet and water. Next add one whole can of kidney beans (juice included), one whole can of pinto beans (juice included), one can of rotel, and add black beans and corn that have been drained. Add a ranch seasoning packet to the mixture and 1-2 cups of water and let it simmer for 30 minutes to an hour. Serve with Mexican cheese and Frito’s for a yummy game day soup.

5. Lasagna

My mom makes a super easy lasagna. Her spaghetti sauce recipe is cooked ground chuck (drain the fat), two cans of Hunt’s tomato sauce, one can of hunt’s tomato paste, and a cup of water. Season it all with salt and pepper, garlic seasoning, parsley and oregano. I even through in a Parmesan cheese rind to give it extra flavor. I let my sauce simmer for three hours. Then, I just layered the lasagna pan with sauce, noodles, ricotta cheese, mozzarella cheese, mad Parmesan cheese.

2014-10-04 10.24.32

6. Sloppy Joe’s

My husband really liked these! Here’s The Pioneer Woman’s recipe:

Photo by The Pioneer Woman


  • 2 Tablespoons Butter
  • 2-1/2 pounds Ground Beef
  • 1/2 whole Large Onion, Diced
  • 1 whole Large Green Bell Pepper, Diced
  • 5 cloves Garlic, Minced
  • 1-1/2 cup Ketchup
  • 1 cup Water
  • 2 Tablespoons Brown Sugar
  • 2 teaspoons Chili Powder (more To Taste)
  • 1 teaspoon Dry Mustard
  • 1/2 teaspoon Red Pepper Flakes (more To Taste)
  •  Worcestershire Sauce, To Taste
  • 2 Tablespoons Tomato Paste (optional)
  •  Tabasco Sauce (optional; To Taste)
  •  Salt To Taste
  •  Freshly Ground Black Pepper, To Taste
  •  Kaiser Rolls
  •  Butter

Preparation Instructions

Add butter to a large skillet or dutch oven over medium high heat. Add ground beef and cook until brown. Drain most of the fat and discard.

Add onions, green pepper, and garlic. Cook for a few minutes, or until vegetables begin to get soft.

Add ketchup, brown sugar, chili pepper, dry mustard, and water. Stir to combine and simmer for 15 minutes, adding salt and pepper to taste. Also add tomato paste, Worcestershire, and Tabasco if desired. Taste and adjust seasonings as needed.

Spread rolls with butter and brown on a griddle or skillet. Spoon meat mixture over the rolls, topping with a slice of cheese if it makes your skirt fly up. Serve hot with kettle cooked chips!

Hope you have enjoyed these six freezer friendly recipes. Which one are you going to try first?

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




Avoiding the ER

emergency room1Minnesota, Colorado, Virginia, Utah, California are all states where at least one Wildenberg child has made a  trip to the ER.  It isn’t an official family vacation until we take at least one trip to Urgent Care or the Emergency Room. 

I prefer to avoid the ER.

There is another -er that would be good to avoid. The suffix, er. The er  that comes at the end of a word:





When we compare our kiddos to one-another we can do some damage. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

It’s true. Comparison can turn admiration into envy and jealousy.

Sibling rivalry is as old as… well… time. It occurred in the very first family  with Adam and Eve’s boys, Cain and Able. 

Our kids will not get along perfectly, but we can help them establish strong and positive bonds by doing these 7 things:

1. Avoid the -ers. Don’t compare your kids or put them into a competitive situation where one is the winner and one the loser. Save the competition type events  for peer  interactions.

2. Train your kids to speak and act with kindness to one-another. This is the simplest and best way to encourage  a good relationship.

3. Appreciate and value each person’s strengths.

4. Exert effort in family and sibling play time. We make a huge effort to organize play dates for our kids with other children, why not with their siblings? 

5. Have your kids work together. Shared effort and maybe even shared feelings (good or bad) about a chore will draw kids together.

6. Create some family traditions so  your kids will have some similar memories.

7. Build empathy into the relationship. “I remember when you were Jacob’s age and you got into my stuff just like your little sister is getting into yours.” Kids love stories about when they were younger and a little bit of a rascal! 

As moms we can have great influence on our kids’ relationship. If we avoid having a “favorite” and  make efforts to build up each child so they feel secure, they will be less likely to be resentful of their sibling and a loving relationship is more likely to grow. Hurtful messages or unwise words may not send a child to the Emergency Room  but they can create a big wound.  How we speak to our kids and about our kids has a great impact on their heart and psyche.

My children will always be siblings but I want them to be lifetime friends as well.  I can can do my part to encourage that relationship.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17

If you liked this article you will like Lori Wildenberg’s two just released books. One for parents of toddlers to nine-years-old,  Raising Little Kids with Big Love or the one for parents of tweens and teens, Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love. Both books can be found on or






JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required



JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




The Persecuted Christian Missionary Project


 I hope so because here is an excellent one!

Plunge with me into the middle of a tremendously dangerous mission field…armed solely with your desire to serve the Lord and serve Christians persecuted for their faith.

On our trip we will team up with The Voice of the Martyrs; a Christian organization serving the persecuted Church all around the world.  They provide relief, spiritual support and encourage the families of Christian martyrs.

The mission of “The Voice of the Martyrs” is to serve those Christians who choose to stay and share the gospel in hostile situations.  They know the risks, but they wisely count the cost when they pick up their cross (Luke 14:27-28).* James E. Dau, VOM President

Last week, while reading through VOM’s article, Letters Matter*, I realized my family, as well as yours, can easily  jump on board this ministry. How? Simply by writing letters to Christians, around the world imprisoned for their faith.  

We can write loving, supportive letters to those who suffer horribly for their faith from the comfort of our kitchen table. 

As I read the article my excitement grew learning how uncomplicated VOM makes this activity…

 “VOM equips believers to write letters to imprisoned Christians in two ways.  Our online tool at allows readers to compose letters online using pre-translated phrases and Bible verses.  We also offer Prisoner Letter Writing Kits that include prisoner profiles and self-mailer stationery that allows readers to use pen and ink to write to prisoners around the world.”

Prisoner Writing kit cover

All the tools are here so we can become missionaries to the missionaries! In turn our children will learn invaluable lessons of suffering for faith, and what life is like for Christians around our globe.

Along with writing letters, VOM’s website has many other ways for your family to get involved caring for suffering Christians around the world.

Are you ready to jump into this mission field with The M.O.M Initiative, VOM and my family? I pray so! Let us know how you reach out and minister!

For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal. 2 Corinthians 4:18

Praising Him through my pen,

Tara Dovenbarger

*Voice of the Martyrs Special Issue 2014

Prisoner Letter Writing Kit Image courtesy of VOM

Child Drawing Image courtesy of Stuart Miles


The #RAISINGLEADERS Challenge & 10 Tips to Help


Do you want your children to grow up to have a strong faith, live godly lives, be courageous for the cause of Christ and serve the Lord all the days of their lives?

I think pretty much most Christian moms do…but when you’re smack dab in the middle of parenting those precious little tikes from toddlers to teens, it’s so easy to get caught up in the moment that you miss the point of it all.

Parenting is something we do every day, but parenting intentionally is hard.

But parenting with a plan an a purpose is what separates intentional mommas from reactionary mommas. And intentional mommas are much more likely to raise leaders than moms who aren’t.

Some say that people are born leaders or they’re not…but leaders are people who discover how to manage themselves, cast a vision and lead others to join the journey. That means leadership can be learned – and if it can be learned, isn’t it something we want our children to know… and become?

So, if almost anyone can be taught how to become a leader, how can moms intentionally raise their children to become leaders? What can we instill in the hearts of their children that will help them be all God created them to be? 


Here are 10 tips to help YOU raise YOUR CHILDREN to become LEADERS:

[Tweet "10 tips to help YOU raise YOUR CHILDREN to become LEADERS" #RaisingLeaders]

1. Instill honesty ~ A leader who can’t be trusted is not leader worth following and others know it. Teach your children the importance of honesty and be sure to live it out in front of them.

2. Instill confidence ~ If your children don’t believe they have the capability to lead others or accomplish things, others will pick up on their lack of confidence and they won’t follow them.

3. Instill humility ~ Pride definitely goes before a fall…especially in leadership. Pride prevents leaders from allowing others to reach their full potential. It hinders leaders from seeing themselves as servant leaders and makes it hard for them to admit when the make a mistake. Humility will help a good leader know their own limitations and surround themselves with those who are good at what they are not good at.

4. Instill an ability to discern the potential in others ~ Good leaders see in others what they can’t see in themselves and empower them to become more than they think they can. Good leaders aren’t about trying to make a name for themselves, they are about helping others fulfill their God-given potential.

5. Instill courage ~ Leaders not only need confidence, they need courage. The courage to step out and take a risk and the confidence to know that failure is never final. Courage to make the hard decisions and to stand up for what is right even when it’s easier to crumble under what isn’t.

6. Instill creativity ~ Everyone is creative in some way or another. Help your children discover their creative side and do something creative every day. Oh…and by the way…creativity can be messy, doesn’t always stay in the lines, and doesn’t always follow the rules. And that’s okay. 

7. Instill discipline ~ Good leaders didn’t become who they are by living random, unintentional lives. They make plans, strategize, set goals, work hard and do what is necessary to make things happen. Disciplined people are the ones that accomplish much and good leaders are disciplined and hard workers.

8. Instill communication ~ Communication is key. If you have a vision but you can’t communicate it, then others won’t follow. If you’re faced with a difficult decision or an uncomfortable conversation, but you’re not able to verbalize it well, you won’t be considered effective.

9. Instill respect ~ Good leaders respect others, no matter what their socio-economic status, their power or their position. God created each of us as equal and a good leader understands that and goes to any lengths to make sure he/she treats others with respect.

10. Instill a dependence on God ~ Good leaders understand they are leaders because God has placed them in that position and they are ultimately subject to His leadership. Knowing they don’t have all the answers and are dependent upon God will cause them to seek God’s face on behalf of every decision and on behalf of those he/she leads.

You’re molding the heart of the next generation, sweet mom! BREATHE DEEP! You’ve got this!

Wake up in the morning determined to intentionally make the most of each mom moment!

And then, do it again.

And again.

Until one day you pull the covers back and discover the little heart you have been molding for so long has become a man or woman of God who is ready to take on the world.

Then grab a cup of coffee, sit on your porch, stare at the space beyond your yard as you reflect on the heart you molded… and then BREATHE DEEP again! 

You’ve raised a leader!

WILL YOU BE A MOM WHO WILL JOIN THE #RAISINGLEADERS CHALLENGE? Intentionally molding the heart of your child to become the leader God created him/her to be? SHARE the hashtag – #RAISINGLEADERS

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required




Praying Philippians 4:13 for Your Children

Prayer! It’s the most powerful thing you can do for your children! It’s the most important responsibility you have as a mom.

One of the things we want to help you do in your journey to pray for your children is to help you develop an arsenal of Scripture that you can consistently pray for your children.

Here’s a link that will give you a FREE downloadable of 30 Scriptures you can pray for your children to specifically target various areas of character and faith.

And below is how you can intentionally pray Philippians 4:13 for your children.
Praying Philippians 4:13 for Your Children


PRAY ON, sweet mom – God hears your heart!

JOIN the THOUSANDS of MOMS, MENTORS & MINISTRY LEADERS who subscribe to The M.O.M. Initiative!

* indicates required