Leadership can be lonely, hard, frustrating and messy. But it also can be amazingly fulfilling, beautiful and significant. But ultimately, a group is only as strong, as driven, as faithful and as fervent as its leader.
It’s a ripple-effect of sorts that can make a ministry soar or send it plummeting to the ground.
Leadership training is a huge part of The MOM Initiative because we know that, as goes the leader, so goes the ministry.
So..today, I hope to equip you with five things that can help you in your journey as a leader and becoming all God created you to be. Five things that will help your ministry and those around you become all God created them to be, as well.
5 KEYS TO EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP
1. HUMILITY - Effective leaders are innately and intentionally humble ~
Humility is not only foundational to effective leadership, it is also one of the most attractive character traits you and I can have. Effective leaders are humble by nature but also make the choice to walk in humility… choosing to put others first and submitting to authority well.
Humility functions in a lot of ways in a leader’s life:
1. It prevents pride - Since pride goes before a fall and leaders who fall tend to fall hard and cause a lot of others to fall with them, HUMILITY will help prevent the pride that causes leaders to make things all about themselves and the fall that accompanies the loss of focus and the elevation of themselves.
2. It helps leaders have a servant’s heart and be servant leaders who don’t point fingers and expect people to jump, but lead by example. The kind of leaders who aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty or break a sweat.
Jesus calls us to be servant leaders and it is the character of humility that lays the foundation for that in a leader’s life.
3. Humility helps leaders know and understand their own limitations and makes it easy for them to surround themselves with those who are good at what they are not.
4. Humility gives leaders the character to admit when they are wrong and to ask for help.
2. RESPECT – Effective leaders respect others
Let’s face it, people aren’t drawn to arrogant people who are disrespectful of others. So, it’s hard to lead those you don’t respect and it’s hard for those you don’t respect to follow you.
If you’re going to be an effective leader, you’ll have to respect others. People won’t follow those who they feel don’t respect them.
Respect means you treasure each person regardless of their socio-economic status, their color, their culture, their power, their position, or their gender. You respect that they were uniquely created by God and for God and you see the potential in others – and respect where they are in the journey.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.”
3. VISION BIG & MOBILIZE OTHERS – Effective leaders are visionaries and mobilizers
Good leaders vision big, organize well, and then… not only cast their vision, but they also keep their vision in front of others, and ultimately inspire others to get on board.
We all have dreams. If truth be told, each of us have dreamed of doing something much bigger than us and beyond our ability to accomplish it alone.
But dreaming big doesn’t make you a leader. Organizing that dream, casting a vision for that dream and then inspiring others to join you in the journey to make that dream come true… now THAT makes you a leader.
4. EMPOWER OTHERS – Effective leaders help others fulfill their God-given destinies
John Maxwell rightly said, “Leaders become great, not because of their power, but because of their ability to empower others.”
That’s why humility is so important! Good leaders aren’t threatened by the abilities or success of others. They help them achieve it. And they help them achieve success because of 2 reasons.
1. They know the success of those who are following their lead will ultimately help them succeed at making the vision come to pass.
2. They know that they are helping others become all God created them to be and there is joy in helping others step into their God-given destinies and discovering they can do and be more than they ever though possible.
5. HAVE THE 4 D’s – Effective leaders are DISCIPLINED, DISCERNING, DETERMINED and DEPENDENT on God’s leading
Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit.”
DISCIPLINE: You have never heard of a good leader who wasn’t disciplined. They do what it takes to get the job done and they discipline themselves to make sure they can accomplish their goals.
DISCERNING: Leaders have to be discerning. Discerning enough to know what decisions need to be made, to know who is best at accomplishing certain necessary tasks, what will and won’t work, when to say YES and when to say NO, and what is necessary to inspire others.
DETERMINED: Effective leaders have to be determined to run their race well. Every dream, every ministry, every event comes with obstacles and if a leader isn’t determined, they will give up quickly and walk away.
DEPENDENT UPON GOD: Effective leaders understand they are leaders because God has placed them in that position and they are ultimately subject to His leadership. Knowing they don’t have all the answers and are dependent upon God will cause them to seek God’s face on behalf of every decision and on behalf of those he/she leads.
Here’s a FREE DOWNLOADABLE to encourage you in your ministry. Whenever you aren’t sure about the way you are leading, ask yourself, “Am I being a boss or a leader?”
WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR STRUGGLES? WHAT WOULD YOU ADD TO HELP OTHER MINISTRY LEADERS? WE’D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!
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“Mom, I think we’re going to spend the night.” My husband, Keith and I were thrilled. Our daughter and her family live 45 minutes from us, and we love every chance to see them. After everyone went to bed, I did what I used to do when our daughter and son were 5 and 3. I set up “KIDZ TIME.” It’s a simple, easy to use devotional activity.
“E” Enter through the narrow gate . Matthew 7:13
“Welcome to Kidz Time!” I greeted our grandsons (ages 4 and 6) when they came into the kitchen. Of course, to get through the doorway to my open arms required some squeezing due to the 2 chairs that I had placed in the doorway.
As they squeezed through the chairs (representing the narrow gate), I discussed what “narrow” and “wide” meant; and how we can go to our Heavenly Father through Jesus, the narrow gate.
Then, they got to glue craft sticks to their Kidz Time “E” page to make a fence with a NARROW GATE. Finally, the verse was printed in the space by our 6-year-old. Our 4-year-old got a little help from me.
As they glued, we practiced our Kidz Time verse, “Enter through the narrow gate.” I’m thrilled our 6-year-old grandson has already entered into salvation through Christ Jesus, and I look forward to our 4-year-old grandson entering through Christ’s open arms.
Do it NOW.
Have you thought about taking a more active role to teach your children about Jesus? Do it today. It’s fun for both mom and child. It takes little effort and only a few minutes to do something of such eternal value. Kidz Time
Blessings, sweet moms,
We tell our children to chase their dreams.
But what if their dreams aren’t the same dreams God has for them?
What if their dreams were conceived in insecurity, doubt, fear, or pride?
I don’t want my sons to seek their own dreams, to make their own way, to do their own thing. I want them to want what God wants, to seek His dream for them, to run the race God has planned for them, to bravely and boldly become all God created them to be and do the good works that God prepared beforehand that they should walk in.
Our children need to learn the secret to abiding.
When we abide in Christ, the fruit that comes from our lives was the fruit that was birthed from the heart of God. (John 15:1-8)
Today, I want to encourage you to teach your children the secret of abiding. When they abide in Christ, He plant His seed of a dream in their hearts and it is through the abiding that that seed will begin to grow.
Instead of telling your children to follow their dreams, the best thing you can tell them is to follow hard after Christ… to abide in Him… and when they do, they will run smack-dab into the dreams God has tucked in their hearts.
After all, Psalm 37:4 tells us, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
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In a world where high fashion reigns and beauty is skin deep, moms can sometimes be left feeling INADEQUATE. As we walk down every grocery store and pharmacy aisle, we are bombarded with products, pictures and items that make us want to look better, skinnier and prettier. All that pressure to look our best can really be a blow to the ego.
How do we resist the temptation to focus on how we look on the outside? It’s simple, but not always easy–focus on our inner spirit and who God says we are.
God wants us to concentrate on who we are in Him. He asks that we focus NOT on our outward appearance, but on the beauty of our spirit. He asks that we look to Him for peace and strength of the heart. He clearly wants us to know that our WORTH comes from Him, not from anything else.
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious (1 Peter 3:3-4 ESV).
God doesn’t see our worth through outer beauty–thank goodness! He cares about the gentleness of our spirit and knowing Him.
Sometimes, moms, we let how we look in the mirror that day define who we are. And that can be a losing battle.
I am NOT saying to ignore your body or your physical health. We are to take care of our bodies. What I am saying is to find your identity in Christ. Don’t let this world or comparing yourself to others keep you from the true person God created you to be.
So dear, sweet moms the next time you feel yourself spun out about how you look, ask God for the real answer…and listen to the Holy Spirit.
Are you struggling with your self-esteem? Please let us know your thoughts.
As moms, we often want to have a special night out with our family–and have a night off. But that isn’t always financially feasible, is it? We are a family of six, so eating out can be really pricey. In fact, we met friends at a fancier hamburger restaurant this past Sunday night, and the bill plus tip was over $100. For hamburgers! This kind of eating HAS to be a rarity in our home, or we will be homeless soon.
So, I thought I’d start a series here on some of our favorite restaurant foods that we make at home. Today, let’s talk Asian cuisine from one of our favorite restaurants, P.F. Changs. I have three recipes, which my family loves: Lettuce Wraps, Egg Rolls and WonTon Soup.
4 T canola oil
4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, thawed and sliced in strips
1 t. salt
1/4 t. pepper
1 c. water chestnuts, chopped
1 c. mushrooms, sliced finely
1 medium vidalia onion, chopped finely
1 t. minced garlic
8 large pieces lettuce, your favorite kind
1/2 c. sugar
1 c. water plus 4 t. separated
8 T. soy sauce, separated
4 T. brown sugar
4 T rice vinegar plus 1 t., separated
4 T. ketchup
2 T. lemon juice
1/4 t. sesame oil
2 T. hot mustard
3 t. garlic and red chili paste
Heat oil over medium high heat in a wok or large frying pan. Sauté onion garlic, mushrooms and water chestnuts for 5 minutes. Remove to a bowl, retaining oil in the pan. Sauté chicken strips for 10 minutes or until golden brown on both sides and thoroughly cooked inside. Remove and when slightly cool, cut into smaller pieces. Add to onion mixture.
In a separate bowl, mix together 4 tablespoons soy sauce, 4 T. brown sugar and 1 t. rice vinegar.
Blend into chicken mixture. Return mixture to pan and heat through over medium low heat for about 5 minutes. Spoon this mixture evenly into lettuce pieces, rolling them up like a burrito.
In a pyrex measuring dish, heat 1 c. water in the microwave for 2 minutes. Blend in 1/2 c. sugar. Add 4 T. soy sauce, 4 T. rice vinegar, 4 T. ketchup, 2 T. lemon juice and 1/4 t. sesame oil. Blend thoroughly. In a separate bowl, blend 2 T. hot mustard and 4 T. water. Add this mixture and 3 t. garlic and red chili paste to pyrex dish. Refrigerate for 30 minutes before serving.
Serve lettuce wraps on a plate with sauce in a small dish in the middle with a spoon. You may dip it or cover the lettuce with this sauce. Enjoy!!
1/2 lb. lean boneless pork
2 T. peanut or sesame oil plus 2 c., divided
1 – 8 oz. pkg. mushrooms, chopped
1 c. chopped bean sprouts
1/2 c. finely chopped water chestnuts
2 green onions, finely chopped
4 c. finely shredded cabbage
2 T. soy sauce
1 T plus 1 t. cornstarch
1 – 16 oz. pkg. egg roll wrappers
Process food in a food processor until finely chopped. Cook pork in 2 T. peanut (sesame) oil over medium high heat for two minutes, until the meat crumbles. Add mushrooms, sprouts, water chestnuts and green onions, stirring constantly for 4 minutes. Stir in cabbage.
Combine soy sauce and cornstarch in a small bowl, stirring well. Add to meat mixture and cook 2-3 minutes until thick and bubbly.
Spoon 1/3 c. mixture in center of wrapper. Fold top corner and wrapper over filling, tucking tip of corner under filling. Fold left and right corners over filling. Lightly brush remaining corner with water. Tightly roll end toward remaining corner and gently press to seal.
Pour 2 c. oil in wok or dutch oven. Heat to 375 degrees. Fry egg rolls a few at a time for 2 minutes or until golden, turning once. Yields 16 egg rolls.
6 chicken breasts
9 c. water
1 onion chopped
4 stalks celery, chopped
1 red bell pepper, chopped
2 t. salt
1 t. garlic pepper
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 t. basil
1/8 t. black pepper
8 sliced bacon, cooked
1 small carton mushrooms, sliced
1 pint baby spinach leaves
4 green onions, sliced
2 T. butter
1 package wonton wrappers
8 T. soy sauce
Boil chicken in water with onion, celery, red bell pepper, salt, garlic pepper, garlic cloves, black pepper and basil for 45 minutes in a large stock pot over medium high heat. Scoop out chicken with slotted spoon and let cool.
In a medium sauce pan, melt butter over medium heat. Add mushrooms and green onions. Sauté for 5 minutes and remove from heat. Add crumbled bacon to this mixture. Fold one spoonful into each wonton wrapper and fold in each side thoroughly.
Chop chicken and add to chicken broth in the stock pot. Also add the spinach. Heat over medium heat for 10 minutes more until hot and bubbly. Gently drop wontons into stock pot, one at a time. Cook 10 minutes more. Turn down heat to low and gently stir in soy sauce.
Next month, I will share some of our favorite Mexican fare from Costa Vida.